Dr. Kimberly Ventus-Darks

Men need to learn the secrets of becoming more feminine while still holding onto their manhood. And when they can successfully learn this they will master how to play the game! This skill and willingness can cause them great success in every aspect of their life. It is called connectedness in the business world. It is charisma in intimate relationships and it is described as empathy in relationships with their children. The key for men is to create balance in their personality and to still be able to be seen as a man by learning to play the game! The question is, is it feminine to communicate directly and honestly even when it does create a disagreement, or is it just simply being honest and direct? Is it feminine to really listen to both the words and the emotion behind what your partner is saying, or is it simply respectful and what you would want in return? Is it being like a girl to initiate date night and hand holding without wanting sex in return or is it just you expressing that you appreciate and see her as a real person that need affection? Many times men get in such a rut with who they have become and the negative things they see on the media about them and it makes them neglect to see how simple it is to work on connecting to the one that they were once attracted to. The same work and effort that the male once put into the relationship to get his significant other, should increase double fold to keep her.

Although this is rarely talked about, most men would agree that what they are actually attracted to, is a woman that has both a balance of both female and masculine qualities. Feminine enough to wear a dress sometimes and to be comfortable enough to position herself to be the receiver in the relationship and masculine enough where she is not needy but she has a sense of independence and confidence that helps her during her most challenging times. This ability to balance your gender traits go beyond what is needed in both your personal and professional life. It is actually the key to being a “turn on” to the opposite sex. This same attraction that the male have, is also very attractive and appealing also the female. Unless the female has been abused before, many women think they want a mysterious, quite, Rambo type man. And this may be what attracts her initially to him; but once she starts increasing her involvement with him she desires for him to be more open, honest and a person that can express more empathy when she needs it. Experts have caught on that this is a key that women need. You see more and more books on teaching women on how to act like a girl but think like a man; yet, experts dare suggest to the man that he should act like Rambo but have the characteristics of Sheila!

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